Do What You Want

By: Oscar Nelson

11/13/2017

 

Let me tell you a secret. You are not in control of the outcomes in your life.No Control

‘Wait WHAT?’ …. Bullshit you say?

Somethings may have gone to plan, or close to plan. But think about it, has anything really gone the way you have expected exactly? We may have an idea or direction, but the exact outcome is always up to a big chance. Effort and hard work help tremendously, but are not always an indicator of guaranteed success.

I have tried really hard at something in the past and had it blow up in my face. I have also half-assed things that were amazing in others eyes.

The outcome was separate from the effort.expectations Shakespeare

So what does that mean for us? How do we live if what we are after is not a guarantee? I suggest you live in a way where moment by moment, you make the choice (again in the moment) that the ‘Best Version of Yourself’ would choose and then let go of any expectations. Let go of any expectation in the future or a tying up of the past. Act as you think you are best able in the moment, then let everything else go. Outside of you doing what you feel is right in the moment; everything is causeless. Good or Bad may come to you. Let it be. You may be unjustifiably rewarded, or punished. Let it be. Be like a screen door and let life flow through you. The push and pull you may feel on you are all imaginary, they are only there because you allow them. Allow those that may be happy or upset with you to just be as they are. Allow them to just be as they are, they have little choice. It helps to take nothing personally.

Have your goals written out (100 things you want to Be, Do and Have is a great start) . And let the expectation of those go too. When you can release expectations and rest in the moment you may be surprised at the ease of that which needs to come to you can flow. Its an open hand that can receive easier than a closed fist. When you are unattached to outcomes, you are free. When you are free, what you need comes to you as you need it in the moment.

What aVast Nowre you if you have no future and no past? What are you if you only exist right now, in this moment? It seems so small, the now, this exact second; but if you really feel into it, its a vast Ocean. Inside the moment you don’t have a name, no story or history. You ARE, with everything else that IS.

This is HOME.

‘But how will I get what I want if I don’t plan and push and try to get ahead?’ – Good question. I advocate planning, but all planning is done in the moment. Do what you feel you must do in the moment, in the ‘Now’ but let go of any future desire or expectation of getting anything from it. What you are getting at is ‘Action for Action’Path Not Takens Sake’. You are working to work, creating to create, writing to write, with no thought of the future or reward. When what you are doing in the moment is its own reward you are always rich, always free. And when you produce and create from that space there is no way the World won’t reward you.

Money and abundance flows to Value. And when you create, work, produce, even play, from a place of Stillness (which action with no expectations engenders) you can’t help but produce massive value. Your mental state of calm alone can be of value to those around you.

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So to recap:

  • Set Your Goals and Dreams
  • Let go of any Expectations
  • Do what you think the ‘Best Version of Yourself’ would do in the moment, in any situation
  • Let what comes, come and let what goes go
  • Let life flow through you (like a Screen Door) and Rest in the ‘Now’

Let Go and Be Free.

Hit me up with any questions, and remember;

You Got This!

 

Oscar

 

P.S. Please write below what expectation(s) you are releasing today.

 

It’s OK if ‘IT’ Sucks.

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By: Oscar Nelson  11/10/2017

I suffer from a good bit of perfectionism. It has, in the past, held me back from starting a lot of things that could have been very beneficial. I am lucky in a way, to have a bit of arrogance as well… . The two, perfectionism and arrogance, fight each other. And what comes out is action that has an edge to it. A head down, shoulder the weight, and a ‘fuck what is logical’ attitude that generally pushes me forward when it would be natural for me to stagnate.

I thought about it recently, because I sometimes see people who have A TON to offer the world but are stuck and not moving forward. Then it dawned on me, one aspect that gets me going and out of the perfectionism, is an attitude. The attitude is:

‘ It’s OK if ‘IT’ Sucks ‘

‘IT’ being whatever the Challenge is.

Maybe your Challenge is a new hobby, a new business, writing a book, starting a blog, creating a romantic relationship… YoSucking at Somethingu get the idea. Anything can be a challenge, and anything is possible if you are OK giving up your expectations of a certain result. Let it be OK if it sucks. But I have a feeling it wont. Because you wont stop there.

Everything is hard before it is easy. And when shit is hard, we suck at it. But then it gets a little easier, and a little more natural and smooth; as we fight past the ‘Suck’. Maybe we wont be world class, but almost anyone, at anything, can move past the ‘Suck’ part if they try. I just takes perseverance and a resilience to the ‘Suck’.

To get to where you want to go, Sucking at it (at first and for the beginning) is the first step.

What can you suck at today that will be a step forward in the direction you need to go?

What can you make a mess of, and have a blast with, that moves you in the direction of your Dreams?Start The Dream

Do that which excites and scares you. And remember;

Its OK if it Sucks.

You got this!

Oscar

 

P.S. Please write below what you are going to be ‘OK if it Sucks’ at? And know I am rooting for you!

Fear is the Way – and why Giving Rocks!!!

Today is Halloween, a day to poke fun at Fear. A day to display the ‘Masks’ that make us afraid and realize it is nothing more than that, a mask. This is a day that allows something to shake free if we can see the meaning behind embodying our fears and realizing that  they are not who we are.Masks

I just got back from a big Convention in Dallas Texas. It was all about learning how to get a message out to a global audience and helping as many people as you can with your influence and message. It really pushed me to think about … well, what I am about. I really had to look hard at myself and see what was in me that is wanting to be given. And there is a depth of power in that wanting to give.

Joy is there.

Peace is there.

Abundance is there.

What is most in me to give is Freedom. I want people to be free to do and be who and what they are made to be. This is my Why – Freedom.

But freedom can be counter-intuitive… like having more discipline and self created boundaries can create more personal freedom.

Life, for the most part, is very counter-intuitive.

The more you give, the more you get. A truly giving person wants for very little, yet they seem to always have what they need when they need it. A open faucet lets the water flow from a vast abundance. I feel it is like this when we give. We open ourselves to the vast unlimited abundance that is the creative force within and underlying everything. When we open and empty ourselves of our story and desires and let abundance flow by giving of ourselves unselfishly there is a power that is beyond words. Giving allows us to get, and the process repeats.

Giving is a sign of great trust in the Universe. It shows there is a deep belief that there is something deeper than the physical. When we give of ourselves; time, energy, attention, there can be felt the unlimited nature of that kind of love. It is saying “I know the Source of abundance; I can give freely.”

What gets in the way of giving?

Fear. Fear

Fear that there will not be more. Fear that giving will become a trap. Fear that when we give there will be an expectation (obligation) to give the next time.

Like I said above, Life can be very counter-intuitive at times. And in this case, fear is the right direction. Give without wanting anything from it. Give with no idea of personal benefit and the fear will fall away.

I have to admit I had some fear when I got back from this Convention. There were so many people doing huge things in the world, with these huge missions and huge incomes that I felt small. But they all talked about being where I am, and some were right there only a few short years ago. My fear was that I had nothing to give or ‘who was I’ to give in this way. And the specific way it showed up, several times, was in regards to writing.

So, my fear is that I won’t be a good writer. That what I say won’t be ‘good enough’. My fear is that I will start and not finish, that I won’t stick to it. This is what is in me to give, however. I am OK if it sucks. I am open to writing for writings sake with the intention that one person benefits (even if its me in someway, that will then help someone else).

So I said ‘Fuck the Fear’ and am running straight at my ‘Monster’. I signed up for NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month) and will start writing my book tomorrow morning. I have no outline or plan at the moment. I don’t know if this piece will even be fiction or non-fiction but I am going to do it. My process will be to meditate for 10 minutes before I write, get the house quiet with some ambient music. I will have the program up the night before I want to write in so when I wake up it is ready to rock. I have a Gymboss timer (vibrates like a pager when your time is done) set for 50 minutes. I will hit this with 50 minutes EVERYDAY for November.

I have several ideas for a theme, I would love your take on what the focus could be? What you want and what you think would benefit the most people. Here are some ideas I have.

  • Novel about a global wide spiritual event (Sun goes dark for three days) and the human race evolves quickly while everything we have been used to crumbles before our eyes.
  • Guide to be a ‘Successful Stoner’ – guide for professionals to get the most from Cannabis while not affecting their area of contribution.
  • Freedom Blueprint – Preventing ‘Dead-Ends’ in life that sap choice in life and drive to be who you really are and prevent your Unique Contribution.
  • A deep dive into the unknown, write like Steven King and just venture into the ‘Void of the White Page’ and see what emerges from the depths.

That last one is the one that interests me the most. Diving off the high dive without being able to see the water! A leap of faith into the abyss of Nothingness. So exited and so fucking scared!

I am facing my fears today. Is there anything you are running from you need to turn around and face head on?

Is there something you know you need to do that you have been putting off?

Time to turn that ‘blinking red light’ in you mind off. Turn around and face it. When you do, it looses all power, and YOU get that Power Back!

There is nothing to fear, but fear itself, and in all reality Fear is the Way. If you feel fear and its not like a bear running you down or life and death, its more than likely psychological fear of growing into the next stage of life. Growing means leaving something behind, but if we see what no longer serves us through the eyes of gratitude is moves that energy into higher places. Thank the belief, item or idea and let it go. Thank it for the service it gave at the time and let it go.

You do not have to hold onto everything. You do not have to remember everything. What you are is always there.

Move into what scares you and let go of what leaves. Growth is natural and transitions are always a bit messy.

To Freedom!

Oscar

 

P.S. Leave a comment below and let me know what writing you would like to see.

 

Pretend It’s T.V.

There is a radical way to view our waking reality.

Pretend It’s T.V.

When we drop all Story from “who we are” there is the simple experience of Being Alive. I suggest that that feeling of Being Alive is really what you are and everything on top of that most basic state is just “Story”.

You are connected to everything in this Stream of Life once you drop the Story.

Let Go and Be Free.

Oscar

Inner Silence as a Source of Streangth

Life happens. Sometimes its good, sometimes it sucks. Nothing is for certain and nothing lasts forever.

How do we find peace in life when it is always on the move? Where is solid ground within the chaos we can find ourselves in?

Silence. Silence Lao Tzu

Silence within, silence to the voice of judgment; not by fighting, but by relaxing into and beneath the mental noise and clutter.

Have you ever been in a conversation and a great idea pops to mind? Its hard to hear the other person; your great idea just rearing to come out as the other person talks on. This is how I have seen myself and others lead their lives at times, just waiting to get the end result we were after and not really caring about the other person. But what we don’t often see is what we miss when we ‘shut down’ briefly when we want to jump in, as they are ultimately looking for love from us with our attention.

Or have you ever been so mad or upset that you can feel the energy in your body want to burst fourth? That almost religious fervor boiling in your blood at some injustice. That energy is useful, our ideas in a conversation are useful; only on the extent we can give them up, however. And Silence is the Path.Black Hole

When we create a ‘Black Hole’ within ourselves of Silence while in daily life it creates a vacuum that can facilitate Freedom. Not necessarily physical freedom, more of a Harmony in the moment. Its almost like the ‘Spirit Eater’ guys of Harry Potter, only in reverse. When you empty yourself, and I mean as completely as you can, in the moment with someone or some issue there is an energy exchange that I don’t understand but have felt and seen. When we drop our own Story and allow the Story around us to dissolve in our own internal Silence, there is a spaciousness that forms around us like a breath of fresh air.

SoHappy Ball as often as you can, Drop the Story of who you are and what you are about and rest in Silence.

That center of Silence within you gives a Strength that is hard to fathom. To find that center, Meditation helps tremendously. Three periods a day of 10 minutes is a great place to start if you have some meditation background. Just remember “Its OK if it Sucks”, if you are ‘horrible’ at meditation that is fine. If ten minutes is too much, start with 1 minute three time a day, go to 2 after a few weeks, exe. Make it easy on yourself to start and keep it going. Just keep releasing and resting in Silence.

This isn’t easy, but it works.

Let Go into Silence and be Free.

Oscar

 

Peace in a Crazy World

The world feels odd right now. Its like everything has shifted slightly.

Natural Disasters, World ChaosPolitical Chaos, Nuclear War Drums beating, all of it seems to have people shaken up.

It feels difficult to find consistency in this shifting landscape.

So, Let Go.

Free-fall into the Nothingness within this Moment.

Every moment is simple. It is our thinking that makes it complex.Water Bubble

Each moment is like a flipping of pages. Each its own eternity. Each never to reappear the same way again.

Each moment is a snowflake. Fleeting and unreal except for a brief image. The only thing gluing them together is the Story we have about it.

The only thing that is Real is the blank background behind the Story. The blank white paper under the  writing is always the same, and its the same blank white page for all of us. We all tap into the same feeling of being alive as everyone else. Beneath the superficial differences in appearances, we are all the same.

If we are all thFlipping of Pagese same, it makes it hard to judge another. It makes it hard to judge our-self as well.

What you are will never change and the “Story” will never stay the same.

Give Up the Story. 

Rest in the Nothingness behind every Moment and be Free.

Question Everything!

Oscar

Success and Cannabis?

Start Within.

The concept came out of my frustrations with the Occupy Movement several years ago. I saw how many people pointed to others for their problems without seeing how they themselves may be apart of that same problem. That experience with organizing a group and protesting gave me a great insight into how people function. Many, I feel, are afraid or shamed to look at themselves. To clearly see both the good and bad of the situation and life they find themselves in. To look with awareness at your life alone, can create change just in itself. What gets measured, gets managed; and what gets managed, improves. 

Cannabis has been a tool to ‘measure’ my life; a magnifying glass, when used correctly, that can show areas that need improvement or attention. Cannabis has also helped with pain and meditation among other things. But for today, I want to focus on Success.

What is success? I believe it is ‘continuous movement in the direction of your (individual) Dreams’. Success is the joy of the journey YOU set for yourself. But how do you know if its YOUR journey or one someone else ‘gifted’ to you (read: put on you).

Break Free and Be You! I hope this video helps get you on your way.

Define what Success means to you and move in the direction of your Dreams.

Never Stop Dreaming!

Oscar

Float through Life

Float through life.

What an odd thing to say, you mighDownstreamt think. What a lazy, unproductive viewpoint to have…. But is it?

Like the weather, we cannot predict the events of our day or the unfolding that life will bring. When we push or pull against the unfolding of life, like the resistance of the weather to be other than it is; there is a type of emotional pain.

Start HappeningI have heard it put that we can “collapse time and space” by feeling like we already have what we want. You can feel the sunshine from the inside; even when its pouring rain. Have what you want NOW, not in the future. FEEL it as yours in this moment, the ONLY moment that exists (for it is the FEELING we are after, not the ‘thing’). The future will always run away, like a mirage. This one moment is all that is real. “NOW” is all that will ever exist. FEEL it as yours NOW, and rest in the HAVING feeling. Resist the urge to think otherwise, its the inner that must change before the outer. When you own the feeling of having what you want with no resistance the outer will change on its own. It has to. Let the life you want, come to you by ALLOWING.

Think about it, does your body not age around an Ageless Center? The ‘You’ that perceived your childhood had not changed in adulthood, just the stories and themes that are playing out on that blank perceiving canvas that has always been with you (or maybe IS you…). Allow yourself to rest as that Ageless Center. Know what you want (writing it out helps) and own the FEELING of already having it. That is how you collapse ‘space and time’.

So float through life. Let what comes, come. Let what goes, go. And rest in what remains no matter what.

Let Go and Float Downstream.

You got this!

Oscar

Hack Your Goal

This is a great process on how to Hack Your Goal based on an excerpt from Tim Ferris’s newest book Tools of the Titans.

Take your List (100 things you want to Be, Do and Have) and whittle it down to 10. Take that ten and see if there is ONE that would make all the others less important. The ONE that is most important to you. Them write it 15 times a day in a powerful affirmation. Do it every day at the same time and watch you life slowly flow to that reality.

Start Within!

Oscar

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