How to Find Yourself Home with All that Chaos?

The fact of the matter is that we are all looking for the same thing. But the only thing your mind keeps doing, is wondering home amidst all that chaos, turmoil, and diversity that surrounds you.

how to find yourself

how to find yourself

What It All Is

We seem so different, but the power of the mind, that internal freedom from compulsion, is what we are all yearning for. It stems from our belief we are separate, that we are “other” than our environment. All these words here on the screen have one common element – the screen.

Likewise, we all have a common feeling, that of existence; the feeling of being alive; of this very moment being real; that is the very same for everyone, and for everything. A tree knows that it is, a rock as well, us humans for all of our “advanced” skills and abilities are all an inevitable part of this “Is-ness” that we collectively swim in. We are molecules and atoms shifting in space-time. It is our mind that carries a story of continuity. It is our mind that spins the webs.

The Power within that Moves EVERYTHING

In reality EVERYTHING is just dancing in the Great Current – a sea of energy. All is a part of that play; even the desire to get rid of this ever continuing dance. Enlightenment or Salvation is just the ending of the need of those, realizing that it is our sense of being alone that we must give up to realize we are all-ONE. ALL IS. And what you are, is always there, just behind the noise. No need to search for it, you are IT.

What is Freedom?

Freedom is, knowing that every mistake is perfectly timed, and you are not in charge of the timing. It is like being one of the indispensable molecules of water, its power within itself, like all other molecules, and going with the flow. Your course has been chalked out, and whatever you do, will be what you had to do.

Freedom is, accepting that you cannot turn the clock around; that you can do your bit in the larger order of things.

So chill out and enjoy the ride. You are never not Home. Only once you let yourself go, will you get to know how to find yourself already home.

Rock On!



So some random quotes of mine I want to put out there…

“There is something of everything in anything”

“You get what you go after. Look deep within yourself first, see if you already have it. Let time catch up.”

“Everyone is just guessing.”


Forge your own way,


What if?

“What if” is a phrase that has whole lot possibilities in it. When you are a child, you think “what if I were a grown up.” When you grow up, you think “What if I were a millionaire.” Even if you are a millionaire, you wonder, “What if I were the most powerful person on earth?”

But what if you actually knew the power within you? Would you still be asking questions of others and of yourself?

Power Within You

Power Within You

The Secret of Life

Life is dynamic, it is an ever-flowing river that will take its own course. But just like the forces of nature design it course, so do our psyche and decisions in life. There is no bigger secret of life that just going with the flow. The idea is not to give up, but to understand what it needs from you, and make efforts to give it that.

You will never know what it has in store for you; sometimes it may be flowers; sometimes thorns. It may actually become useless wondering how to change your life. But we wonder. And sometimes, doing that gives you answer that you may never get otherwise.

What May Happen in Life

What if life is actually a lot simpler than you make it?

What if the force of everything was working FOR us?
What if that entire force is the real power within you?
What if you are doing and being exactly what you need to do and be right now?
What if you really can do nothing “wrong”?
What if this life really is some sort of dream?
What if what “you” are is just an idea, a concept?

What if you could be so relaxed into our own lives to such a degree that the “you” which feels that the secret inner hunger just dissolves into the Life you find yourself in?
What if there is One that is Conscious through everything and you just “tap into” that One?
What if you ARE that One, and you just were taught to forget it?
What if that One were “dreaming” you?
What if the Dream is trying to wake itself up?
What happens if you live for the whole manifestation and not yourself?
What would life be like knowing the whole Creation is in flow to bring you what you need, and you are naturally bringing others what they need by your natural and authentic action?
What if everything is extremely simple that you don’t need to wonder how to change your life?
What if you were already perfect?
What would you do today if you could feel the full force of the Universe flowing through everything you do?
What if the power within is the only power that exists in the universe?
What if?

– Oscar

How to Find Yourself the Success that is Sought?

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how to find yourself

How do we define success? Accolades? Parties in your honor? Awards?

Does success always have to be fancy? Have you wondered about it? Has it always plagued you how to find yourself in a decent position among those who make a show of success and sing tirades of how they did it?

And have you ever wondered if it counts how many and what sort of efforts you made to make success kiss your feet? Well, one thing, success is different for all. Another thing, different people have different ways to find it. Some try everything they can, some find a sturdy way of progressing and then stick to it. Human population growth statistic tells us how dissatisfied human of all nations, classes and races are with their lives. Looking for grand success with complex means need not really bring in satisfaction.

I still recall a practice from my childhood days. My brother and I used to get to rent a video game system if we were good as kids. Consequently, we always ended up fighting. We would get a game like “Street Fighter” or “Mortal Combat”, where we would have to compete against each other. My brother would try to use as many buttons, and make as many different moves as possible to get my guy. I would find one thing, one button, and just keep pushing it, just keep doing the one thing that worked. For me, it worked almost every time. He would yell, he would fluster, and get so mad. “That’s cheating!”, “That’s not fair!”, “You can’t do that!” He had all kinds of reasons why me winning with one move was not a real win at all.

But it was a win, after all. A win is a win. And, doing something simple, over and over that works, actually WORKS! Success doesn’t have to be fancy; it doesn’t have to be complicated either. If you are still ill at ease thinking how to find yourself that magic bean which grows a stock leading to treasure, think again. May be you just need to do your daily job well to do well in life.

Do what works; do it well; repeat.
Don’t over think; don’t over act or react.

This applies to everything in life. If you have a side-business that is helping pay off debt, but it is not exciting, keep doing it. It will work and pay off. Don’t lose small avenues of improvement in search of something grand.

If you have a diet that is working but is bland and uneventful, keep going.

The secret that economists keep looking for to attain holistic human population growth may be just this bit – figuring out what works for you. The greatest treasure in life is just beyond the dry, barren deserts. The gold is within the common soil. Don’t be fancy, just be consistent.
Find what works.

Do it.

Rock on!

Know Yourself to Ride the Cycles of Life

We live in a story. This life, the people, the drama around us, the rad, and the sad are all a very real dream. It’s hard to believe, but it is the way it is. Who were you before you were born? What will you be when you leave? Do you know yourself?

Know Yourself

Do You Know Yourself?

What We are

We come from a Mystery and will return to a Mystery; and in between lies a dynamic, an ever-flowing river of experience. We paint this experience with the stories we have been narrated to us. We modified them, and created ourselves. Some serve us, but some hold us back. One thing I discovered as I looked at the stories I tell myself, and this natural unfolding of the Dream of Life, is that the Cycles of Life can create Flow or Turbulence depending on how we act. This means that the key to empowerment lies in our own acts.

The Vitality of Action

Action is the Juice in the squeeze. Even action-less action is an action. Meditating, for example, IS an action too. When our actions come rolling in flow with the Cycles of Life, we don’t fear the natural unfolding; when we act out of fear or desperation, the very same Cycles become a brick wall.

Just know that everything is in flux. The hard times are there to help you appreciate the good ones; the thin times flavor the thick. Business is slow to prepare for the good times, and good times are for preparing for the “Bad”. Nothing stays the same. But, there are times when we feel trapped, like “this crap will last forever”. The trick is to lean into it. Allow yourself to be OK with “hell” lasting forever.

What Action Must be Taken?

Allow yourself to know yourself; to feel how you feel; to see the situation as it is, and Act. There is an odd, consistent crack in the “forever feeling” when you do this. Like the cracking of the thin shell that holds a baby bird captive in its egg. Just beyond the constrictive, black abyss is an alive, vibrant world of endless possibilities.

Just like not letting go with either hand on monkey bars, if we cannot let go of the past there will be no momentum to carry us into our future. If we cannot let go of our story, we will be unable to write our future. As soon as we let go, energy is released, and me move. Allowing, letting go into the Flow, is an action. Let the Cycles of Life work for you and realize nothing is permanent; that is your path to empowerment. No-“body” gets out of this life alive. We are all walking soil; so enjoy this dream we have the privilege to be in, and make it your own.
Change the world; it’s yours to change! And ride the Cycles of Life to your advantage!

Live Rad,

Weed Your Garden First – Know Yourself before You Know Others

“If you know the enemy and know yourself you need not fear the results of a hundred battles”- Sun Tzu. One thing in life is for sure – all the important lessons are learned only by experience. Know yourself and win rest of the world.

Know Yourself

Know Yourself

I realized it when I was hopeful about playing a pivotal part in getting a local start to an Occupy movement in my home town some time ago. More than a movement, it proved to be a great experiment in seeing social dynamics on an upfront and personal level. It also compelled me to see how easy it is to point a finger at others for problems, and how difficult it is to know yourself. I would have to say that the frustrations that the lessons of Occupy caused in me, egged me on to create what has now taken the shape of this blog – StartWithin.

Whose Fault is It?

It is so easy to point the finger at others; so easy to point out the weeds in other’s garden. And this syndrome only grows with human population growth. It takes real wisdom to realize and fathom the reality of someone’s fault (a person, a leader, a government) and use the lessons for PERSONAL growth first.

A Lesson Learned in Time

The lesson that must be learned, however, is that before you try to incite change in another, it is you who must change. Weed out the greed in your own heart before shaking your fist at the corporate greed. That is what I had to do. I could not see myself being apart of something with pure ideals (realized or not) with what I felt was a lack in personal purity. I had to weed my garden first, and the process seems to have just started. It may take this lifetime (or more) to get this herculean task completed.

The Chain Reaction of Weeding

There is hope though. Just like one person on the block cleaning up their yard can spur others to spruce up their place as well, likewise, by “weeding” yourself you may end up encouraging others to do the same. Making wise choices yourself, without, howsoever, making much noise about it creates the space for those around you to make wise choices as well. On the flip-side, when you make poor choices, you allow other to continue the way they are going. There are more people comparing themselves to you in ways you may never know. Your growth creates a force to allow their growth. This is how human population growth is. This very act of spreading the positive change is the true Occupy movement.

Occupy yourself first, weed your own garden. What is that 1% negative within you that is oppressing the 99% positive that wants to grow and evolve? What is that one good change you can decide to strive for right now? What is one “weed” you can pull in this moment? To find out it is imperative to make efforts to know yourself.

Get the gloves out and get ready to take the dirt, your garden awaits.

-Oscar Nelson

The Compound Interest of Sustained Action

I like to make lists. Lots of lists. Lists of things I want to change, plans, general madness and the like. My wife is very nice about all of my half filled notebooks around my house. But this year I have started a process of not diffusing myself on so many half-assed wishes and started to put the time in on a few things. The results so far have been amazing. I still get the nudges to change and tweak things, but I just watch those thoughts and try to see where the “voice” is coming from. I have committed to a year without change. Twelve months of daily action; 20 minutes of Mantra meditation followed immediately by 20 minutes of writing – twice a day, morning and night. Taking a cue from Jerry Seinfeld I mark half a red X on an at-a-glance full year calendar when I complete the morning ritual and the last part of the X when I complete the nights. I cannot tell you how beautiful an X’d out January looks! It has been hard though. The desire to change my mantra, to change my writing, to change everything has come and gone like storms in the sky. The calendar and X’s have helped ground me, but this is new. Never before have I been able to sustain something so simple for so long (ya, I know… only a month. But Still!) It has bread discipline in a lot of other areas of my life as well.

This is working and it has brought peace in my life. Waking early and knowing I am investing in myself flavors the whole day as a success even before it starts. The meditation before I create has been a revelation as well. It takes the brakes off, it’s like I watch my body create instead of “trying” at all.

Where are you going in life? What would you love to build? A novel, a relationship, a language skill, a business? Like the penny doubling every day adding up to $10,737,418.24 after 31 days, the small DAILY addition to your goal will reap rewards far beyond your input. Pick two things, one being a support and the other the main action towards your goal. Put the time in and stick to the simple plan and watch your life change in areas you could have not imagined.

Simple and steady. Leverage the Compound Interest of Sustained Action. And for today and every one after it,

Live RAD!


Stay Awake in the middle of Panic

By- Oscar Nelson

So I kinda freaked out a bit today. My finances blew up in my face due to my lack of management. This blow up sent me into a slight tailspin as I had just read some strategies for getting my finances in order this morning. These strategies made me feel like a child, not because it was new, but because it was shit I knew and DID NOT USE years ago when it would have been useful in shaping today. If it was new information it would still have been a gut check, but today it was a square kick to the proverbial balls. I reacted poorly, I will admit. But it made me breath in that grown up breath of “This will not happen again.” I looked deep into the core of what was going on and found something, maybe a piece of the “root” of many of my frustrations. I fought hard to stay “Awake.”

The root I think I found was that I want everything NOW, without having to “earn” it. I want my finances square, but have invested no time into a budget. I want my business to run like its on rails, but I don’t constantly trim any unnecessary expenses and keep on the small details. I want to lead, but have not set a clear direction to where I am going. What do all of these have in common?


I did not prepare. I did not act ahead. No one is to blame but me. I had to forgive myself and move on. But it made me wonder how much subconscious energy went into burying all the signs that things needed to change a long time ago. Those “yellow alerts” that nudge us that there is a need for change, but before the “fire” of disaster.

What “Yellow Alerts” are just below your surface? What unsorted out part of your life are you dreading to look deeper into? The funny thing is that when you look at it dead in the eye, the problem is not the huge monster you once thought it was. And like the way to eat an elephant, take the ugly bastard a bit at a time.

And for God’s sake, stop beating yourself up about it. And I will do my best to do the same.

To Fierce Freedom,


Welcoming the Unknowing

by- Oscar Nelson on January 26th, 2014

So today I woke up feeling uneasy and restless. An aimless, ungraspable intensity to do something that felt so pressing but just out of reach flavored the morning in a grasping melancholy. A push to “do” without an aim or a goal. So what do we do with that Unknowing that takes us at times? What do we do with that energy that wants to create but is diffused, and without a set medium to create from.

Welcome this Unknowing.

It came to me as the only option. That Unknowing itself became a teacher of sorts. It showed the lack of knowledge in what I would usually do to fulfill others “should’s” of what was expected of me. With no pull from others I felt like a balloon with no string. A cloud with no substance. I realized that it is just the uncomfortable transition to being truly me. There is a learning that has to happen when we step out of the confines that have always held us. There is a vastness to this new freedom that is so ungrounded and uncomfortable. Like life itself, these new boundless states need practice to become comfortable. To become known.

Until then, I will welcome the Unknown as a friend and teacher. Because it is only by moving beyond what is comfortable and usual can we grow. And for a better focus, growth is a goal most worthy to pursue.

How to Find Yourself behind the Façade of Normalcy

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How to Find Yourself

Is Normalcy a Façade?

The more you try to find what the definitions of “normal” is, the farther you will be driven from it.

Here is the scenario – your best efforts go in trying to be how everyone else around you acts because that is considered normal. You try harder every day, every time, to just fit in, to seek their approval, just this one more time. And you push back the feeling of being weird so hard that you want to forget it.

But the truth is that the flimsy shell beneath which you hide yourself is just a hair’s breadth away from crumbling. Isn’t it true?

My Word to You

Let the shell crumble.

No shell, no façade, can stay in place for too long. The sooner it comes off, the better.
So, show the world your flavor of the “weird”. There is all probability that the ones around you will be shocked at times. Do you know why? Not because it is out of place but it reminds them of their own shell. It makes them realize how transient it is and that theirs too could crumble any moment.

There is nothing in you that you must hide. Normalcy comes from norms. And norms are only manmade. That is nowhere near changing lives, that is dictating lives. Don’t let others make you.

Be yourself, totally yourself, lose yourself in being you.

Why Must You Be You?

The world doesn’t need even one more normal person when there is already a crowd. The world needs you weird; it’s already full of “normal” numbskulls! It’s quite mundane to have clones of clones all around. The sincere employee who can never take a break; the dedicated housewife who must always tend to her children all the time; the overburdened student who must score an A in all subjects – we already have an army of those people, and of those who are constantly trying to be all that.

Is there anything that is different about you? If there is, then you must not hide it, because it is as much a part of you as your eyes or your hands.

Next time, leave that webpage up that you would have hidden it when others came by; bring that book to read on your break that you thought may make you look weird.

Do tell me what is that one thing that you could do today that would challenge the status quo. Please tell me of you wish to learn how to find yourself.

Chip the shell, free yourself.

© Start Within
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